Wife Speaks For Me

Dear Joel,

I’m happy to share that I don’t have an opinion….or at least that’s what my wife thinks. When someone asks if I like steak, she answers medium-rare. When they ask if I like baseball, she says Mets. Whether its little conversations or big decisions, I don’t have to worry what I think, my wife answers for me. Sometimes I would like to make a choice myself.


As men, we often give up making many of the decisions about running a household, but your situation seems to have gone off the rails. Women are nurturers; they like it when everyone is happy and everything is in its place. You have to find your voice again. Go on a date night and tell her you will pick the movie, the restaurant and the menu selection, and if she butts in, she will pay for the whole evening. Pick up a dozen donuts and say I got these three for me and you can have the rest. Maybe when she starts seeing that you are capable, she’ll back off a little. If that doesn’t work, try answering some of the questions she gets asked. Hopefully, she’ll get the hint.

Joel Markel

Write to joel@preferredcares.com. His radio show, “Preferred Company” airs Monday through Friday from 8 to 10 a.m. on preferredradio.com and 1160 & 1310 WOBM-AM.

If you or anyone else is in need of home health care, call Preferred at 732-840-5566. “Home health care with feeling.

Joel Markel is President of Preferred Home Health Care and Nursing Services Inc. serving all of New Jersey in adult, senior and pediatric home health care.”